BAASIT ' s ... 'BERbadak' n Nite before WEd...ng






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WOw ............................... sorry ......... 

what ...... so... this is NEW.... format ........... 

New Formation ........something UNthinkable ...... this... IT GOt  ...me .......

....in surprise ........................................................................................ 

....anywhere...... LIVe...... goes ON..... .......  CouldN't stop ........................

...... have to learn FAst .......... as ...younger people....   DOes ..........

                                               ....................all in ..... FROnt Runners.....

.. yesss ..... I love ...most ...my previuos old Blogs....... now ...gone...........

HEaR ....me .......... stories gO on.......

                   .......... dECember Stories...... 



.......... invitation  for ...ceremonial NIte............ traditional... so called...
                    Majlis Malam...BERbadak... ???
      ..... circulated only....... closed .... blOOd related families .................. 
                                                ......eldests ........nn ...friends ............
Uuu... know ... badak .... simply..Malay word ...another...meaning for wild  animal ... RHINo ...rhinoceros .... hippopotamus.... sort off .... supposed but this..... NOT .......... is ....... more polite .....white .... d' making of  white
....whitening............ white powder ....................  usually ...... goes .... for ladies..................................................................................................
cosmestic types ..................
IF...ever ....Uuu make a research ...d' ROOt...of this ceremonial ................ ........yes.........
going back.......... Malay History........ before Islam was ..... Hinduism........ bUt this tradition....... accepted ........ stay..ON ........as ....this is nOt religion ritual ......nn ..... NOt ...... against......... Islamic......................

This is my ...simple explaination ................. more to explain....................



 

 .................. people invited were ......... seated ...at camps ....................... 
......separated ...males ...for males......  females ....for females...................
                                      ...........Brunei way of ....lives......



 ............. inside d' house ............ a group of people .......in same coloured uniforms ... CARa Melayu ....... 
            ......reading..... islamic ...... nn...... Quranic ....verses..................
Zikir ........... Marhaban ............ verses...................................
                           ..in Arabic .....that told....... goodness ........................


 ..............  reached to certain ZIkir's verses ............ parents ..................
.......Daddy .... Pengiran Haji Yahya  ......... invited.... leading .......
First to ......do d' BERbadak ......... ceremony ........ a touch ................
                      .... to wet powder..................... seven of them.................
a kiss............... from ... mother... Nariyah binti Matali ....Indonesian inherited BLood .......was addational ................ showing LOVeeee.............
......showing ...........to...her ....loving only .....son ...........eldest of three ...  



 Dipped ...Uuu ...finger to... all d' coloured ... powder on trays...... ...............
............. a touch .....at.... forehead .......palms....... right-left........




 .............most all males..... eldest in camps........ were invited .................
Pengiran Dato .............. Pengiran .......... Pehin .......

 .................. followed in Q system .... in turned ............... soon ..... each over ...presented ...a GIFt.....
sort of................... incentive gift ............ those came forward ...............
................................. doing d' BERbadak.......... ceremony...........

 Awangku Abdul BA'Asit............ a few months younger than my son....................25..... to 26 years old ............................................
....at d' aGE .............. d' right time to get married .................
............. a banker ............gaduated from UBD ........... supposed to have steady .... monthly income  .............eehh.........

Wearing Costume ................ to wear ........ but... nowadays....... like graduation gowns ..... hired costumes ........... available ...........................
..Rare.......worn those golden chain ........amoured liked ............cicular........
shaped objects liked .... bangles ....bracelet...anklets ............ all in sets...... hands ..... legs ....... elbows ...shoulders...... wow......................................
so...people sometimes ...called ...............................................................
                   ..............GElang Keroncong ..................
        so....  tradition .......ASEAN............ seemed similar.......too............



...so ... MALes...........s0 .... Did
 ............... ladies turned .................... some teasing him.....................
............... right time............. before being put mman nnn wife..............


Ameeen...... put Uuu side palms.... UP ..... begging .................................
                      all............... went welll........Allah WILL......almighty.........

.................... as Berbadak.....ended...nn..so... Zikir..............
BUt........ as usual............. ending with........... DOA..............
..............  before ................. all people....... served....DInner........



NEaring..........wedding day ............ Saturday's NIte.....................
...................used to be.............. crowd NItes........... celebrating... groom's home ...........
NOt least .............. had FUns.......... cheering d' atmosphere..............

  ............. old days ........ new days .............. changing................
                       ......... what money can offered...????
.............. guests... kept to stay...... late NIte.... welcomed with......... LOts..........  to be done..... offered attractive activities...........
                                 ......for young ...........old ..............
......menu.... had to be served ......... varities ... some ..food for all.... eg ???
                                   ...........Hired.... ordered ......... man to make ........
....................specially made.............ROTI Telor ...
                      ...... Roti ....... Roti Canai .................
  





..................................NO LIvE Band..... but.......techonolgy could Make.............. musical system more ...affordable ....... entertaining........

       ....................................so like ONe Man Show......................

Karakoe ..... a new .....way to serve people......those like............

 ...............to sing songs ...........

But ...here..NOt least..........a group doing exercises .........
                                       ................................POCO - PocO.....

right - left steps ....... up - down steps ...... made Uuu ...... muscles ..nn joints moved .........so satisfied..... nn ...enjoyed with ....... Group Dance ...

....  please me....... follow ................my steps................???

it was ...... NOTtt ..... like TWist.......

          A...GO GO....... CHa Cha......

                         ....or .........rock nn.....Roll............

...................... NOr ...Micheal Jackson .................

                   .................horrow...dancing ....eeehhh

.............. sorry .................. eldest..just .........watching.................



 .............. to entertain ................ all... would WIn ............. more would get ...benefits............. with simple...
numberical announcement ...........LOTTO .........
     have Uu seen this....... Yess.....old people .....ladies' GAme.......
                              ...................somewhere in Europe too ......
NOt..for GAMmbling............
NEEd NOt .......payment............ presents ....ready.........donated from uncles nn cousin...so..so ..... for those.........
                         ....winning....... completed ...... liNes ...
........... until.....how many.........winners ........ so many........................
One ...after another...........one..two .... three winners at ONe time...........
...so to share ....... CArds.......... distributed......... those... who liked  to participate .............. to win.............
Lucky numbers................. by names given............... also ............. being announced..... offered ...as .....alternative .....................................  
                               .............. to WIN... more ....  presents..
               ...................adding so tempting to wait till LAte Nite .........

 





 .... so Fauzzy...... Baasit's cousin.... d' nite ..DJ .......did so great..
........ to make people .... cheerful ...... was d' job ........ nn .......................
......... what ......... music could offered..those like to sing...........some ... brought their ...... cds.......... nn asked.........d' musical techician...ON ...to play her song ...nn so...KARAKOE .........

.............d' nIte.... continued ...until...........laate ........................
          

                .....   so tomorrow............. another day..................................
                                        Wedding Day........ real guests coming.............