BA'ASIT's Wedding Gifts .....DOWry

December........ eNd of d' year's month ............. nn x' mas .........
December ........ month of holiday ..............................   
                                     ........... school holidays .............yaahhoooo..
December ........ month uuU  have waiting for.............................
December ......... vaccation time ... excursion ....love to travel .....
                           so... forth ......so ......................................
December ......... WEddings ............MoNth............................
         ....LOts... getting....... INvitation Cards ......too




A picture story  .......... could ever .......share ....as ............ attended...




THRee in ONE............. TWO in ONE............ either ......

Shorten d' wedding activities ................ 
                                   ..........Bruneian MALay WEdding .....

Traditional ...............
............original Malay custom nOt necessarily followed as used to be..........
     ......in d' modern living ....... U can find many reasons..... WHy...???? 

FInd ways...........

IF ....thought ..... WIse ............ to survive ................. nowadays...

TOday.......... couples ....lessons given as compulsory... if NOt .....
........like exam attended during school days .........
                                               .............. to take d' following  prosedures 

Yes...... to GEt married....... had to prepare .......... Uu're self.......
................ all sorts....

Planning............... registering............. nOt least .........
.....Wedding courses..... attended to be prepared .............
        .........as husband .... wife ..... as father ... as mother ... so nn so ...

 





A week before....... invitation ...for .... again ..... called ....WEDDing        

ENd of d' YEAr............
        Uu're probably......receiving a LOt..... Wedding INvitation CArds.............

Kampong ANggerek DEsa.....
This is a village ......atmosphere nOt d' same .....decades agoooo..................

JUst observed .... farrr from remote........uUu called a long time ago ..............
                   .......................LOOking.......at ....few green trees ................. 
       BUttt .......better roads ........more houses ....
                                               ......... better ....betterrr.........
..... nn so... reduce spaces...... d' compound becomes limited....... for  CAMps..... erected to place comfort......... seats provided to those attended d' wedding................................................................................................






 Today ...........part of customary ....traditon before WEdding Day.... invited mostly related ...friends...neighbours  .............................................

So..... first comers seated....a souvenir gift....to take home soon entered d' compound ..............................................................................

Respecting others ....... common way of life ...to Malay community.... life.......

WEaring .......... CAra Melayu............ as uuU could witness......typical Bruneian ............  still using once attended .............................................





  Began.... at indoor .......
........d' agenda..firstly .............. attended ....  by Pegiran ... Dato....... so .... PEhin ......as an Iman.... led .....   so reciting........ DOa.............
................





Preparation    with decorated.......uniqueness

 .......... d' bridegroom's gifts ............ as SHown ....  few here........

Quraan .............. Bruneian Ujung Sarat ... shoe ..perfumes ........ more .....

.............. part of DOWry............. of wedding ...................................





 OUtside ............ soon
 All ...MAles camps ................ served ..........  light foods .......... 



 Ladies' camp ...........................just d' opposite Male's camp ..........
................... help Uurselves.... foods .....too ...........................................

............. dispersed ................. but fews stayed ......................................
...... mostly like to attend ..... witness.......... d' supposed grand schedule .....
              "Hantar Berian nn  NIkah"...





 Already assigned........ carrier of GIfts........
 ................ choosen............ beautiful .......... Baasit's Sisters .... cousins......... would lend their hands to carry d' gIfts to ....................... BRide's....HOme 



 ......... large bus ......coach .........would carry relatives to ......Bride's place...
...............another van to pick up those .........Group ............................ 
                                      ..............with d' bridegroom's Gifts.......






............a large coach provided by Bridegroom ...........................................
           ..... could accommodate ........50 .................or more people............. 

LIke Football ...supporters..... took seats................ if nO seats.. just used own transportation .................................................................................

 




 Kampong Katimahar ......... d' bride's village ................
30 to 40 minutes drive from d' bridegroom's home ....................................
Camps ........ were erected ........here ............ waiting people ..............
                                                            .............mostly relatives ..........





MOst .....Eldest............. Pengiran ... DAto.... PEhin .......  were ready inside intended room ........ waiting for d' wedding .............................
                           ...............d' declaration ................ real wed ...........

First......... d' bridegroom's representative.........rose d' subject ..... reason of coming.... as promised.... when..first..... came 10 months ago.............. here...... d' listing of .....Dowry ...........
            ............................saying one by one...........until d' end of d' tray...

........... so ... YEss.......... all were here...complete ...  list....... of gifts .....




 

Next..................... meeting d' bride.....................

BUt .....first.............. a signature from d' bride ....... she is willing ......for this proposal ..... witness by her father .............so to surrender her daughter ..........

.... his willing  ...... to let on behave ..........IMam would be took charge..................................................................................to wed her...

 




so.........d' ceremony ...... started.....
All SEated ............. nn listening ..........................................................







 ................ summon of wedding ....read by d' IMam......... with loud speakers ..... so everybody could hear ....... to those already married... could once again hear ............. renewal...... treaty of wedding .........................






D' climax .......... waiting for ...............
 So..... d' Imam ................ I WED Bassit ......... so ...so.....

Bridegroom held tight d' IMam Hands .... nn ...................... 
                                        .................shaked...soon finished ... 
I accepted ....... to marry Izzati ............ with d' dowry ... a Quraan nn .....(stating amount of money) ...needed quick reply.... reponded .... hands moved...... saying fluency with..... well arranged words....... than.........
            .........Married approved... as witnesses said ....
                                                                             ............YEsss



   ............ bride........solemnly .............
  .................concentrated .......... while..... ceremony ON................



 .......... this was...... real WEd ....... took place ........... witness by both parents................
Hands ON............... DOa...recited...........
                                so..... Happy Ending ......






  ............. as husband nn wife ........... now............................... 
                                      ......allowed to sit nearer ... together..............
seated on "Pelamin" .......decorated weddiing seat ......indoor only ....
...to those watchfull guests in d' room ................  eldest ...... closed relatives..................... parents.........................................................



  .................. here .......d' newly HAPPy ............couple ..............



  ..........  in return of d' dowry gifts............  bridegroom to bring back........... some....as reply  from d' bride ..as well....................................................



  .......... refreshment served .............as soon d' ceremony completed
......... couple's WEd.... over ...................................................................



  ................ by d' end...........all planning..... successfully ......... took place..
so ..........bridegroom's group ............. leaving.......... back home ...............



 ................... a tradition shown   ...........
....... called ...Berbadak..... before being given a special BAth ............ a whitening ceremony carried... on..... for d' bridegroom.....  so he would be smelt ..... GOooood ...............................................
............... indoor...............attended only............... nearest relatives......
Mother........................
............so Father.... nn uncle.........just watch soon after their turned...



.......................... nExt.......... REal Ceremony ..........
                  .....................a week after.........this............